Warm breath softly blown across the back of the neck...That is one of the secrets to a successful lap dance given by a male stripper. What? It's true.
The lap dance is an art form similar to an interpretive dance. It is a person-to-person experience created for fun but with a bit of eroticism thrown in. I've laid out the process in the narrative woven throughout this blog. Take each step and make it your own. Create an experience that is tailor made for your customers.
It's All About The Customer
The customer sees this - A hot male dancer with tanned, bare chest and tight, 6-pack abs, narrow waist, clingy-reveal-all sky blue low-rise briefs with the bulging outline of a semi-hard cock, and slim, yet muscular legs.
The customer experiences this - He hovers an inch above their lap, close enough that they can feel the warmth of his body but he is still able to seductively slide around their body in a slow dance.
The customer does this - The customer looks into the green eyes of the handsome face. He smiles as he leans into them. They smell his cologne and it's very sexy, earthy.
The customer feels this - The hairs on their neck stand up as he lightly breathes across their skin moving slowly up around their right ear where he lightly blows. The customer shivers.
Everything was already hot and a complete turn-on but the sensual experience that pushed them over the edge was the light breath on their neck. Three things will happen here. This customer will never forget this; they will tell all their friends about it; and they will return for another experience as soon as they possibly can.
Give Them More Than Expected
But it's not over yet. The male stripper turns around leaving his back against them, and almost sits in the customer's lap. He takes their hands into his own. Grasping firmly around their wrists, he starts at the top of his pecs placing their fingers upon his chest, and lets their hands rest there a moment...flesh touching flesh.
He then slowly guides their fingers across the pec muscles, bumping upon the nipples, moving gradually down. The customer can feel the heat and firmness of his 6-pack abs.
Thinking the exploration has reached its destination at the abs, the customer is surprised and excited when he keeps going down, placing their hands one on each side of his pouch.
He takes the customer's right hand and rubs up and down his fabric covered cock and balls. They feel him grow stiffer beneath their touch.
Bring The Performance To A New Height
The dancer rises to a standing position and turns to face the customer again. Their eyes are now almost even with his erection.
Once again he takes their hands by the wrist and places them squarely on his firm ass cheeks. Leaning in he whispers in their ear, "squeeze". Being the obedient lap dance recipient, they respond.
Realizing the "position" they are in, their hands involuntarily pull him forward as they squeeze. The dancer grins knowing what they are trying to do but maintains his stance by contracting the muscles in his ass...rock solid.
For a few beats of the song, he dances only inches away and then as a tease, suddenly moves in and brushes his fabric-covered cock against their cheek.
Leave Them Wanting More
We are way past shivers now. The customer is convinced the earth is about to move when the song ends and the dancer stands fully upright and backs away.
He leans down again and gives them a hug and a kiss on the cheek. "Thank you baby", he says. Once again they inhale the smell of his cologne and store the experience in a place in their brain where a quick retrieval will be possible later during their "personal time".
He turns and walks away leaving them to finish their drink and let the red flush fade from their cheeks.
This is one variation on a lap dance experience for a customer. It is one that you might find in a bar or club.
The Private Party - Erotic With Laughter
At a private party such as a bachelorette or bachelor party experience, the atmosphere will be much different. It is a more public experience and there is usually a lot of laughter.
In situations such as this, male strippers will often add a bit of nudity if it is allowed and if it is part of the contracted performance. This can happen while in the customer's lap. Using a towel or flag to cover himself during a lap dance with the guest of honor adds to the tease of the experience for the other partygoers. I've included a YouTube video below at the bottom of this paragraph of male stripper Javier Markham. He's an Aussie boy who is living and working in the U.K. Watch how he uses the Australian flag in his lap dance.
The customer will hold the ends of the towel or flag in their hands. The dancer can then either show their ass and junk in sneak peeks to the customer, or remove it entirely giving the customer the full view.
Since he has been teasing the rest of the guests during the process, it is nice to give them a final pay off. This would involve standing toward the other guests and removing the towel or flag to give everyone a look. Then when he feels everyone has caught a glimpse, cover back up and make them feel like they received something special.
What Happens If I Get An Erection?
A male stripper does not always get an erection while performing a lap dance. But, this is a possibility and the dancer would always be aware that this may happen. How do you respond? You act like this was suppose to happen and that it is a very erotic part of the experience.
A good idea is to do a swinging motion as the flag or towel is covering the erection. This is erotic but also comical and should get a laugh or two out of the guests. It goes without saying that the guests will have no issues with a male stripper popping a boner.
Speaking from experience, I have tipped at a male strip club simply for the fact that the dancer had an erection. I told him the tip was in appreciation.
Thank You For Being A Friend
After the male stripper has given a lap dance to a guest, he sales one to his/her friends. Returning to the original lap dance recipient soon after the lap dance is completed, he tells them thank you for spending some time with me. He asks if they had fun. If they performed well, they will have a positive response.
The male stripper uses this opportunity to promote himself and his lap dance skills to the friends. He asks if anyone else would like to enjoy the same experience.
Adding To A Customer's Special Night
When a group comes in to a male strip club together they are often celebrating a special occasion in the life of one of their members. This could be a birthday, divorce, retirement, bachelorette or bachelor party, etc.
The male strippers should give the guest of honor extra attention. He congratulates them on whatever they are celebrating. If anyone in the group wants to pay for a lap dance for the guest of honor, he can give extra time or an extra song. For example, if the normal lap dance is 2-3 songs, he gives them 4.
To increase his entertainment value and popularity with the group, he states to the group that the normal lap dance lasts for 2 songs but since it's his/her special night, He is going give them 3 song. They will remember him the next time they are wanting to celebrate a life event.
If the group is non-responsive to paying for a lap dance, the male stripper could say something like, "If anyone in the group buys a lap dance from me, I will give the guest of honor in your group a free one."
Of course, you'll want to make it clear whether you are giving the guest of honor only one lap dance, or if you are giving them one for every one that is purchased by the rest of the group. The main thing is to make sure this guest of honor is enjoying the experience.
Final Thoughts
I have experienced many lap dances over the years. I plan to experience many more. Depending on the male stripper, all the senses may be engaged - sight, sound, smell, taste and touch.
It is the male strippers responsibility to have an appearance that looks as good as possible. It is the male strippers responsibility to use his voice as a tool to sound as erotic as possible. It is the male strippers responsibility to be groomed and smell as sexy as possible. It is the male strippers responsibility to take the hands of the customer and have their fingers explore through touch. We'll leave taste as a question mark. That one remains a mystery between the male stripper and the customer.
My last point is a reminder that the lap dance as with any skill the male stripper possesses, is all about the tease.