A good looking well-built male stripper is loved by all the customers and fans, but the truly successful ones help put butts in the seats with drinks in their hands.
The most successful way to make money as a male stripper is to create a following. When you bring customers to the bar or club where you perform, you become more than eye candy and entertainment. You become an asset to the venue and they will ask you back again and again. How do you create a following? I have a few suggestions.
Be A Quality Entertainer
The first responsibility of a male dancer is to provide quality entertainment. If you are a male stripper, then come prepared with a costume, sexy underwear, selected music, props and a smile. If you are a go go boy, you may not be in charge of the music but you can definitely make sure you are wearing sexy underwear and any accessories that might go with the theme of the night.
The male review is a little different. Most of the performers in a male review have already gone through an extensive audition and rehearsals. Someone else will be in charge of costumes, music and lighting, but the group must work together to present a quality show to the audience.
If you are not bringing quality entertainment, eventually you will not be asked to perform. If you have amazing assets such as a huge cock, well, you might last a little longer than some but eventually someone with a big cock who provides entertainment will become the next 'big thing' and you'll be only a memory.
Build A Reputation
The bottom line here is always work to become the best entertainer you can be. Be creative. Stay fresh. Spend some time thinking up new ideas for costumes, props, music and performances.
If you maintain a reputation as a quality entertainer, you will develop and maintain a customer and fan following. Show directors, club managers, bartenders, DJs, etc., will have confidence that you will bring a show worth watching.
Be A Nice Guy
The Right Attitude
The male dancers that I remember the most are those who I call 'sweethearts'. Don't get the idea that I am naive. I am fully aware that male dancers are going to work me for tips and lap dances. That is part of the fun. At the same time, the wrong attitude will send me out the door.
A Good Experience
Last Fall, I went to Montreal to visit several of the clubs. My first stop is always at Stock Bar. I am an online affiliate with Stock Bar. For that reason, I always stop in to see if I still want to be an affiliate based on my experience while there. I've never been disappointed and this time was no different. I enjoyed the performances of each of the dancers and spent a little time in private lap dances as well.
There were four dancers that night that caught my attention. Each one came around, chatted some and worked me asking if I wanted to do a private lap dance. The private lap dance is one of the main ways they make their money. There was no pressure.
I will say that it is difficult for me to say no to French Canadian accents. The lap dances were $20 per song. I had a good time and the dancers were friendly. I'll not give away any details here.
The result is that I am still an affiliate of Stock Bar and plan to remain one. My personal experience at the club was exceptional. There is more information on Stock Bar on the Recommended Resources page if you are interested.
A Bad Experience
After leaving Stock Bar we went to a club up the street. I won't mention the name. We sat down and were sipping our drinks and taking it all in. A male dancer came by to visit with us and see if we wanted a private lap dance. And believe me, I did. You should have seen him.
I told him not right then but that I was interested and asked him to come back a little later. I'm not sure what was going on with the dancer but he proceeded to tell me that he hated customers who came in just to watch and didn't do private lap dances. He spent a few minutes venting on me because I had chosen not to do a lap dance at that very moment.
Of course, at that point, there was no way I was going to spend any money on him. I finished my drink and got up and left the club. There is never an excuse for speaking to a customer in that way. Even if I was never going to have a lap dance with him, there is no excuse for his behavior.
My partner and I had paid a cover charge and purchased drinks so even before considering male dancers, we had supported the club where the dancer could perform.
If he had sat and visited with us for a while, walked away and then came back later, I would have been doing a private lap dance and he would have gone home with my money. But because of his attitude, that money stayed in my pocket.
Draw More Flies
Be known as the nice guy. As the saying goes, "You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar." A sweet attitude will draw more customers than a sour one.
Meet And Greet
Everyone Is A Potential Follower
You want them to become more than tippers. A tipper is someone who tips you at a venue where you are performing. A follower is a tipper who tips you at many places where you are performing. They follow you to different locations. They go to that location on that specific night because you are going to be there.
For this to happen, it is important that you try to meet everyone that you can wherever you perform. Let them get to know you.
I Am A Follower
One of my favorite male strippers is Johnny W. Dangerously. There are a couple of main reasons why I place him on my favorites list. I first met him at a club in Columbus, OH a few years ago. I enjoyed his performance. I tipped, he said thank you. And as far as physical appearance goes, yes, he caught my attention. And when I mention Johnny W. Dangerously, I always have to add that he has a deep, sexy voice.
The next night I was at a different club in Columbus, OH and he was performing there as well. He remembered us from the previous night and dropped by to say hello. It made a difference.
This past Fall, as I mentioned above, I was in Montreal. We left Montreal a day early because a huge snow storm was coming through the midwestern United States. This was a road trip for us and we didn't want to get stuck somewhere for a few days.
We decided to choose an alternate route back into the U.S. and began looking at where we could go. We decided to head to Columbus, OH since our previous trips there had been a lot of fun. It was a Tuesday night and I checked my Males In Motion club listing for Ohio.
Tuesday nights are not often a common night of the week for featuring male dancers. However, during my search I noticed that MJ's in Dayton, OH has male strippers on Tuesday nights, and this particular Tuesday night, Johnny W. Dangerously was one of the featured dancers. For me the decision was made and our next destination became Dayton, OH.
I am a follower of Johnny W. Dangerously because he was more than a hot male stripper, he took the time to make a personal connection. And Johnny made another personal connection that night in Dayton. The result is that any time I am going to be in Ohio, I try to make sure at least one night on my trip, I am at a venue where Johnny is performing.
Make A Personal Connection
Meet and greet everyone that you possibly can at every venue where you perform. Actually, even when you are not performing, try to meet and greet everyone that you possibly can. If you never meet them, they may never become a follower. Greet them and make a personal connection.
- I recommend the following posts on Social Media:
- Monthly Calendar - Dates, Locations, Times where you will be performing.
- Quality promotional photos
- Selfies during the week
- Photos of you performing
- Share ads you are featured in
- Videos of you performing
- Reminder posts of where you'll be performing-a few days before.
- Reminder posts of where you'll be performing-on the day.
- Links to blogs I post **grin**
Become Active Everywhere You Can
Use social media to promote yourself. Become active on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and any others that come along. Different customers use different social media. Some use all of them. The main thing is to have a presence.
A warning here: Do not spend all of your time keeping social media together. You can post a couple of times a week on each one and be good. And even if it is the same post on each one, that is no problem. The main thing is to keep your accounts active with new content each week.
Two Separate Accounts
I recommend a separate account for your business posts. In other words a separate account for everything that has to do with your being a male stripper. Your other account should be your personal account where you post what grandma, mom, dad, your aunt, your friends, etc., can see.
Why do I recommend 2 different accounts? I'm going to be blunt here. As a promoter, photographer and the male stripper guru, I do not want to read about the latest ride you took on your emotional rollercoaster. I do not want to see what you ate for dinner. I do not want to read how depressed or bored you are.
Business is business. If I am looking for a male stripper, go go boy, etc., to hire for a job. I'm going to pick one who looks great and is professional. Not only will I not hire a male dancer who rides an emotional roller coaster, I will not recommend them to others. And I'm not alone in this. Business is business.
Keep Personal And Business Life Separate
We all go through ups and downs in life but unless I am friends with someone outside of this business, I do not want to know about any of this. Everyone has their own shit to deal with on a daily basis and when they are trying to run a business, the last thing they want is to know about your shit.
For my true friends, I'm going to pick up the phone now and then and check on them. Or, I might send them a message online telling them to have a great day. Or send them a pic of a nice male dancer butt because I know it will make them smile.
I cannot make it more clear, I recommend that you keep your personal and business life separate. On your business account, everything is always good. Life is good. You are ready to be hired and dance.
Support Others In The Business
Support The Clubs
If a club features male dancers whether they are male strippers, go go boys, pole dancers or male reviews, when possible support them.
The number of places available for male dancer entertainment shrinks each year. Sometimes new ones are added but fewer than the ones that close. Help keep your opportunities available by supporting the clubs that currently feature male dancers.
If you are hired to perform at a bar, club or event, talk positive about that venue and those that bring you in. If you get a reputation for bad mouthing people and places, they will stop asking you to perform. And believe me, if you say it, it will get around.
By support bars, clubs and events, you will collect followers from those venues. They will want to support you in return.
Support Other Entertainers
Support other male strippers, go go boys, pole dancers and male reviews. There is enough room for everyone to be successful. Help them with their success. If you support them, you are helping to keep the exotic male dancer industry strong. Tip them when they perform. It is the gesture more than the money that is important.
Support the other entertainers such as drag queens, that work to feature male dancers. Tip them when they perform. Let them know you are supporting them.
When other male dancers or entertainers need a performer for a show or someone to fill in, be the one that they think of first. Support them and they will support you. There are some exceptions but do not let that guide you. Others will see you supporting the other entertainers. It does make a difference.
Create followers out of other entertainers.
Support The Staff Members
When possible, tip the DJs, bartenders, lighting people, bouncers, door people and other behind the scenes staff. They are all working together to make it possible for you to do what you do. If you are having a good night financially, spread the love.
I'm not saying for you to give all your money away, a few dollars here and there. It will mean a lot because so few entertainers actually do this. Create followers out of the staff members.
A Professional Image
As soon as you are financially able, have professional photos taken for promotional purposes. Selfies and mirror shots are fine for weekly post on social media but for ads and promotions, you need photos taken by a professional photographer.
Professional photos let everyone know that you are a professional entertainer and performer. This message will be told through the images to club managers, show directors, other entertainers, customers, etc.
Professional photos add authenticity to you as a performer. These are the images that you will send for ads. Your image will often be on an ad with other entertainers. And many of those entertainers will be sending photos created by a professional photographer. You want your image to say that you are of the same calibre and quality as the others.
A good photographer will accent your best features and hide your less than best features. A good photographer will know how to combine the pose, lighting, props and the backdrop to make you stand out and be noticed.
A great promotional image will help to draw customers to a venue to see you. If they are drawn to the venue where you are performing, then they become potential followers.
And while you are at it, create a follower out of your photographer. Let your name be the first he thinks of when someone is looking for a male dancer.
Special days are an opportunity to create loyal followers. By special days I am talking about birthdays, anniversaries, new jobs, retirements and for some, divorces. There are others that I can't think of at the moment. They are all days that customers have chosen to come out and celebrate a special occasion.
Celebrate with them. Give the birthday 'boy' or 'girl' extra attention. If appropriate, offer them a free lap dance.
They have come to the club for a celebration. If you celebrate with them or congratulate them in a special way, they will remember you.
This can also be done on social media. If they have entered the date on their profile, Facebook lets you know when a person is having a birthday. Tell them Happy Birthday on their page in the usual way but also send them a private message with a pic of you that says Happy Birthday!
This can also be done for other occasions. Look for opportunities to celebrate with the customers.
Building a following does not happen over night. Be patient and keep working at it. It will happen.
When you have a large following, you bring customers to the bar, club or venue where you are performing. These customers will pay a cover if there is one. They will buy drinks. This will keep the owners and managers happy and you will become one of their favorites which actually means, they have become one of your followers.
If you are bringing customers to the venues where you perform, you are bringing potential tips to be placed in your underwear. Your income goes up. The bar's income goes up. The customer's fun goes up. It's a win-win-win situation for all.
One last tip on social media posts and performance reminders, always ask your followers to join you. For example, say something like "I hope to see you there." Let them know that you are looking forward to seeing them again. Change it up each time.
I hope this blog has helped contribute to your success. I am a follower. Hopefully we will meet in person and I can place a few tips in your waistband.
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